When is saying i love you too much

YOLO, guys. And it's true, I think, as long as it's not disingenuous, too much is better than too little, especially if your partner is the type who needs it to feel appreciated.

Some people don't need a special overwhelming reason to say it. You can say it all the time and still feel like it's special all the time. When thinking about how often to say it, it's important to remember that withholding saying it shouldn't be used a as a weapon. If you say it and someone doesn't say it back, it's an awful, awful feeling. So even when you're fighting, you should still say it, especially if you're a couple that says it a lot.

It seemed like if you're someone who says it, you're saying it once a day. At least. Sometimes way more. And it's awful when you do see it becomes a tool in a fight but, as this post shows, just because it's put you in a vulnerable position or you've been hurt before, doesn't mean it should carry through into your next relationship. Bottom line? You should say it as often as works for you, but I mean you both— you as a couple. In this insightful book, Dr. Chapman explains that we all have a tendency to show love in the same way that we feel the most loved ourselves.

These five love languages are:. As you look at this list, think about the ways in which you feel the most loved. If, for example, you feel the most loved through physical touch holding hands, a shoulder massage, or a tender touch to your cheek , then you will also show love in that same way by default.

This is your love language. Your spouse likely has a different love language than you and therefore, will not feel the most loved through physical touch. Their primary way to give and receive love might be through words of affirmation. This sets up a scenario where you are touching and being affectionate to show love, but your spouse does not seem to respond to you in the same way. In other words, your spouse does not feel your love because you are speaking a different language.

If this sounds familiar, you may even be feeling like you are doing all of the loving and pursuing in your relationship. This can feel very one-sided and be a strain on any relationship.

What if, on the other hand, you took the time to understand the ways in which your spouse feels the most loved — their love language. Then you could learn to be more deliberate to offer words of affirmation and help your spouse to feel loved and appreciated.

Now back to our opening story. In neuro-linguistic programming NLP , people are described to take in information and learn in three different ways…. Our newsletter subscriber may be an auditory learner she may like to hear information and her partner may prefer to get and give information in one of the two other ways.

He may prefer demonstrations of love as opposed to saying it or he may prefer written notes of love. Listen, truly listen, to how your partner wants to be loved. Understand why your partner has that view.